A lot of people are talking about 2020 as the year of clear vision, and I like it. I want to see clearly this year. Easier said than done. Am I the only one who can hear the voice of my biggest critic louder than my supporters?
Seriously, there could be 10 people telling me that they appreciate me, that they love my work, and that they are thankful for various initiatives I’ve led, and I will feel appreciated in the moment but replay the opposite feedback in my head…over and over and over. I think it comes down to this for me…
It is an important value of mine to treat all people with respect and equitable care. So when that critic raises concerns, I truly want to listen. I also truly want them to see that I am not an ass, when maybe I should just focus on making sure they feel appreciated and valued while letting their opinions go. Valuing the person while disagreeing with their perspectives is hard. Really hard. Isn’t easier to just write the person off altogether, or work to win their approval? What will it look like to value the person while letting their hurtful words fall like snowflakes on warm ground, disappearing as if they never existed?
That is what it will take for me to have clear vision in 2020.